Dear Rick: I, like many of your readers, appreciate your articles, but in most cases don't comment. I am a hurt spouse and my husband of 37 years has been involved in an affair for 5 years. My discovery was 2.5 years ago and it has been a roller-coaster of emotional strife that all of you have experienced in varying degrees. My "mate" wasn't safe. but I never felt your comments gave him a free ticket to infidelity. He doesn't like your comments about whether or not he's safe and I'm sure that is his guilt talking. He's currently in a 5 week in-house treatment program that I trust God has led him to, where he has voluntarily admitted he needs help for his sexual addiction to her. So Rick, maybe he has finally internalized that "he's not safe." Keeping writing Rick - Your message hits home and yes, sometimes we don't want to hear what you're saying but you are God's messenger.
Debbie
Follow-up to Is your mate safe?