Affair Recovery

DE, Sorry to hear you are in such a tough spot. This limbo period you are in can be so painful. A lot of times the betrayer is still stuck in the "fog" and still not thinking clearly and thus say the craziest hurting things like "we may not be intimate again". It takes a concerted effort to recover from an affair. In order for a marriage to be reborn it takes both parties willing. Right now it seems your spouse may not be ready or able. At this point in my recovery I received some great advise which was to work on myself and let God handle my spouse. They may or may not recover but in the mean time you can work on your personal recovery (which you will need regardless of your marriage surviving). One of the best things that helped my wife break out of the fog was to attend an EMS weekend here at ARC. That would be a great thing for you I think. It helped my wife realize the magnitude of the betrayal and gave us concrete steps to take to recover. Please don't take anything your wife is saying or doing right now too seriously. Just as a heroin addict will do and say crazy things your spouse is also similarly affected. Be the best person you can be and look to God for support. He never will betray you. Erick