I feel the same way. 18years of marriage and never once did I see this coming. Its been 3 months since the affair. I caught them on my couch while I slept in the other room. They were (still are) coworkers and she was supposedly my "friend". My two boys thought of her as an aunt. The more details I get I realize how blind I was. They both say it was just that one time and they were both drunk but how can I believe that? I mean, in my house with me and the boys sleeping in rooms close by. I want to know every detail. Until recently he kept saying it wasnt anything more, but a few days ago he finally admitted it was more of an "inappropriate relationship" (him hiding their texts, phone calls, etc) but still says it was one time for sex. I dont believe him. He is making every effort to make our marriage work, but I keep obsessing over the details. Does the pain ever stop? Ive lost my appetite. I thought I was dealing with it ok but lately I feel out of my mind crazy. I love him so much but hate him too.
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I feel the same way. 18years of marriage and never once did I see this coming. Its been 3 months since the affair. I caught them on my couch while I slept in the other room. They were (still are) coworkers and she was supposedly my "friend". My two boys thought of her as an aunt. The more details I get I realize how blind I was. They both say it was just that one time and they were both drunk but how can I believe that? I mean, in my house with me and the boys sleeping in rooms close by. I want to know every detail. Until recently he kept saying it wasnt anything more, but a few days ago he finally admitted it was more of an "inappropriate relationship" (him hiding their texts, phone calls, etc) but still says it was one time for sex. I dont believe him. He is making every effort to make our marriage work, but I keep obsessing over the details. Does the pain ever stop? Ive lost my appetite. I thought I was dealing with it ok but lately I feel out of my mind crazy. I love him so much but hate him too.