grieving...

karla, thanks for the comment. ya know, it's a bit of a tough question. i think at some level, when there has been grieving by an unfaithful spouse, there is a large amount of brokenness and humility. they are not self righteous and have an awareness of their own dark side, therefore they tolerate failures in other people's live and have an awareness for their own 'stuff' ya know? if he's grieved, then he's probably got a decent appreciation for life and for his marriage. have you asked him about it? have you perhaps shared with him how you've grieved and asked if he's grieved about it and what he's done? although, he may get defensive. depends on where he's at with it all ya know? i'd ask and see what his thoughts are. also, if he's grieved, he's probably pretty empathetic to your journey and in touch with what you've had to walk through and grieve through...he's probably also very thankful as when you've grieved through what you've lost and what you've done due to your choices, at some level, the outcome is a joy as you've come through it and come out on the other side and with a great deal of gratitude you appreciate what you have and what is left. just my thoughts on it. i hope that helps some.