Affair Recovery

Robert, you are a right friend, it is a process and i heard once before that the power is in the process. as you forgive, you gain more and more ground, more and more momentum and find healing along the way. i think as you pursue progress and not perfection you realize it is a process. also, its ok to admit you struggle and you're a mess. My wife admitted many times she was a mess, and then kept going. as long as you keep going, i think you're fine friend. have you read some of the articles rick has posted on triggers? there are a pretty good amount in the free resources page that will help for sure and if you need help with more i know you can email the staff for any helpful pages or articles to read to keep the momentum going. i think samantha dealt with triggers for about three years or so off and on, but we fought through them. she has them now and laughs or talks back and says nope, nope i'm not going down. that was then, this now. for her, she had a certain mantra she developed when she was triggered. she would literally talk, or pray back against it. she'd say many times, no, no no, i'm not going to believe that. uhuh. she would even cuss sometimes, hhahahaha and say no, not today. then keep going and get busy, or work out, or journal or pray or clean house. she would do anything to keep going forward. it gets easier friend. it does and it will keep going and keep getting help and perspective. i'll pray for you for sure too.