Hello. I am weeks away from a divorce. My husband (whom I desperately wish would consider reconciliation) has been having an affair/relationship with a woman for about 6 years. We have been married for 23 years, have 3 grown and suffering children, and have a comfortable lifestyle; all of which he is throwing away.
For two years, I have unsuccessfully tried to invite him to come home to his family even though she is everything that he has always belittled. He refuses to consider it. His spends less and less time with my children (down to a few hours a month). He feels that our children are “on board” with him having a new family; he is never around when they weep, or refuse to go to school, to hear their angry ranting. I mean nothing to him – he sees me as the nanny, housekeeper, and accountant.
I am out of hope. The dreams and plans we had, are shattered. My children are ghosts of themselves. I would appreciate your exercises in Harboring Hope to help me and my children move on from his years of deceit and emotional destruction. Perhaps we can learn to accept what he has done and stop imagining his scraps of attention as signs that he wants to return; I need to reinforce the harbor I have been trying to create for my children – to better keep them safe from this storm
Hello. I am weeks away from a
Hello. I am weeks away from a divorce. My husband (whom I desperately wish would consider reconciliation) has been having an affair/relationship with a woman for about 6 years. We have been married for 23 years, have 3 grown and suffering children, and have a comfortable lifestyle; all of which he is throwing away.
For two years, I have unsuccessfully tried to invite him to come home to his family even though she is everything that he has always belittled. He refuses to consider it. His spends less and less time with my children (down to a few hours a month). He feels that our children are “on board” with him having a new family; he is never around when they weep, or refuse to go to school, to hear their angry ranting. I mean nothing to him – he sees me as the nanny, housekeeper, and accountant.
I am out of hope. The dreams and plans we had, are shattered. My children are ghosts of themselves. I would appreciate your exercises in Harboring Hope to help me and my children move on from his years of deceit and emotional destruction. Perhaps we can learn to accept what he has done and stop imagining his scraps of attention as signs that he wants to return; I need to reinforce the harbor I have been trying to create for my children – to better keep them safe from this storm