We had just "graduated" from both individual and couples therapy 18 months post D-day and were doing much better. Then I found out that most of what my wife had told me about her affair was untrue, that what I had been working to recover from was just the tip of the iceberg, and that she has been deeply deceitful throughout our supposed recovery, including having made new wedding vows that promised no more secrets and lies. Hard to see from here what good could be made out of a marriage after all this. I still think it would be good for our kids to raised in a stable household of two parents, but it was so hard the first time around and it's been hard to muster up the energy and will to take this on again, and so hard to build anything new when I have no trust in anything she says anymore. Feels so much easier at this point to just start over elsewhere. Maybe harboring hope would help?
We had just "graduated" from
We had just "graduated" from both individual and couples therapy 18 months post D-day and were doing much better. Then I found out that most of what my wife had told me about her affair was untrue, that what I had been working to recover from was just the tip of the iceberg, and that she has been deeply deceitful throughout our supposed recovery, including having made new wedding vows that promised no more secrets and lies. Hard to see from here what good could be made out of a marriage after all this. I still think it would be good for our kids to raised in a stable household of two parents, but it was so hard the first time around and it's been hard to muster up the energy and will to take this on again, and so hard to build anything new when I have no trust in anything she says anymore. Feels so much easier at this point to just start over elsewhere. Maybe harboring hope would help?