I’m sad, extremely angry and frustrated..not only because I have been betrayed and deceived for the last 2 years of lying about an affair but because it seems my/our therapist has given my wife an out. Not from being accountable but from exclusion and omission. I have discussed with him for 21 visits ( together as a couple and separate) how it important for me to be more informed about having full disclosure and that I am being drip fed 3 pieces of information in 21 visits. Who,a car,and sometime in the middle of our marriage separation.. (although we stayed in the same house together the entire time)..it was her boss and she still works there and has her life completely intact as beforehand. She says we need the money and health insurance and that’s why she stays. I feel as though it’s because she doesn’t want to face the entire situation at hand.( if i was in her situation..I would live in a cardboard box for her and rebuild everything) But somehow I’m the only one sleeping in the bed she’s made. I am and have been working on my own recovery and will continue to do so. I have no mentors and really nobody to talk with this about with( not in a “Rick and Samuel” type of way). My friends all have the same attitude about women and it’s not positive nor helpful. They have been hurt as well in the past and haven’t sought help but only to shame and berate their partners. So finding understanding and a moral compass through them is hopeless. Many of us men don’t talk about our situations without extreme anger or if at all..because of a lack of feeling that you can’t satisfy your woman overall. Not true. It’s just the worst thing to deal with. Much more complicated than any woman. So in closing, im refusing to be part of my pain to this situation any longer and I’m triple “H-ing” as my last and only resort. I hope everyone finds Healing,Hope and Help for their own recovery and that peace is your goal. I’m striving for it in my heart as well. #stay strong for today!
HHH (Harboring Hope Help!)
I’m sad, extremely angry and frustrated..not only because I have been betrayed and deceived for the last 2 years of lying about an affair but because it seems my/our therapist has given my wife an out. Not from being accountable but from exclusion and omission. I have discussed with him for 21 visits ( together as a couple and separate) how it important for me to be more informed about having full disclosure and that I am being drip fed 3 pieces of information in 21 visits. Who,a car,and sometime in the middle of our marriage separation.. (although we stayed in the same house together the entire time)..it was her boss and she still works there and has her life completely intact as beforehand. She says we need the money and health insurance and that’s why she stays. I feel as though it’s because she doesn’t want to face the entire situation at hand.( if i was in her situation..I would live in a cardboard box for her and rebuild everything) But somehow I’m the only one sleeping in the bed she’s made. I am and have been working on my own recovery and will continue to do so. I have no mentors and really nobody to talk with this about with( not in a “Rick and Samuel” type of way). My friends all have the same attitude about women and it’s not positive nor helpful. They have been hurt as well in the past and haven’t sought help but only to shame and berate their partners. So finding understanding and a moral compass through them is hopeless. Many of us men don’t talk about our situations without extreme anger or if at all..because of a lack of feeling that you can’t satisfy your woman overall. Not true. It’s just the worst thing to deal with. Much more complicated than any woman. So in closing, im refusing to be part of my pain to this situation any longer and I’m triple “H-ing” as my last and only resort. I hope everyone finds Healing,Hope and Help for their own recovery and that peace is your goal. I’m striving for it in my heart as well. #stay strong for today!