My Story

D-day was May 3, 2013 when I accidentally discovered my husband of 12 1/2 years had been unfaithful for 8 months. It was with a stranger that he originally picked up in a bar, he claims there was no emotional connection, but some of the subsequent discoveries show he was more involved than he is willing to admit. He has violated me and our marriage in every way possible, and I am having a hard time understanding why and how he did this, as well as dealing with the anger and pain in an effective way. My world is definitely rocked as up until that point I trusted him completely and despite the issues I knew we had, mostly that he was distancing himself from me emotionally almost completely, I never believed he could do this. I am lost and confused, although we have attended marriage counseling and a 2 day marriage intensive. He ended it immediately and says he loves me and wants to save our marriage but I do not know if I can forgive the magnitude of his betrayal.