Samuel, it helps to know that I am not the only one trying to drive the recovery bus. We have been dealing with this for a very long time. I am positive that communication with the affair partner was severed long ago, but he could still be holding on to the memories He has done the work for class, but doesn't apply what he's learned. For example, he hears my wounds/offenses but doesn't try to change or improve them. I don't think that he realizes that we can't go back to the way things were. I think he can't forgive himself, or fathom that he was so far removed from our marriage that he did what did. He is quiet and passive anyway, but I feel like he is afraid to put himself out there.
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Samuel, it helps to know that I am not the only one trying to drive the recovery bus. We have been dealing with this for a very long time. I am positive that communication with the affair partner was severed long ago, but he could still be holding on to the memories He has done the work for class, but doesn't apply what he's learned. For example, he hears my wounds/offenses but doesn't try to change or improve them. I don't think that he realizes that we can't go back to the way things were. I think he can't forgive himself, or fathom that he was so far removed from our marriage that he did what did. He is quiet and passive anyway, but I feel like he is afraid to put himself out there.