You read my mind

Mine and your stories are almost identical. I'm struggling to believe that I will ever feel "safe" from the pain, shock and embarrassment that I have lived. I too was dragged for nearly 2 years after DDay, and don't understand why now? Why should I believe that NOW you are able to give our marriage 100%, when he was clearly incapable for the 2+years with the affair partner, plus another nearly 2 years after discovery. He wants me to believe it is like a light switch that turns on and off, and he just turned it off. Doesn't make sense.