sorry for delay. i can't seem to keep up with comments etc. apologies. how is he doing otherwise? some males talk about it enough, then see that they have done enough and package it up and are done and now they want to move on. some do that. some don't. it really depends on his personality type. is he doing ok without talking about it much at all? i would recommend: 1. you making sure you have a place where you are connecting, preventing relapse and furthering your own recovery with other women. hope for healing on the site is a perfect place to do that. 2. i would see if he's open to talking not about the affair but about the marriage and if he is open to getting help that is not infidelity related and maybe you can at least talk about the marriage and how to heal more without discussing the infidelity for short time. he may feel intimidated by the affair partner and like he didn't or doesn't measure up and doesn't want to feel shame etc.
how are things besides that??
sorry for delay. i can't seem to keep up with comments etc. apologies. how is he doing otherwise? some males talk about it enough, then see that they have done enough and package it up and are done and now they want to move on. some do that. some don't. it really depends on his personality type. is he doing ok without talking about it much at all? i would recommend: 1. you making sure you have a place where you are connecting, preventing relapse and furthering your own recovery with other women. hope for healing on the site is a perfect place to do that. 2. i would see if he's open to talking not about the affair but about the marriage and if he is open to getting help that is not infidelity related and maybe you can at least talk about the marriage and how to heal more without discussing the infidelity for short time. he may feel intimidated by the affair partner and like he didn't or doesn't measure up and doesn't want to feel shame etc.