Our kids are 31 and 29. Our adult daughter is married with 3 children and she was told the general gist of the infidelity. She was shocked and hurt for many weeks and wanted nothing to do with him. I allowed her to grieve and supported any decision she made in regards to communicating with me or him. I did not divulge details though my husband said he would face our children and answer any or all questions they may have. I prayed about it. We did not discuss any details with our son, who is 29. He felt it was our business and we needed to work it out. I do worry that he has concerns but he also knows we are in counseling and he supports our efforts. Since our marriage is, in itself, a separate entity apart from our adult kids, we are praying that God will show them what true forgiveness and reconciliation looks like and that "good" will come of this mess. I love your advice, Rick. As usual, it is spot on!
such great advice
Our kids are 31 and 29. Our adult daughter is married with 3 children and she was told the general gist of the infidelity. She was shocked and hurt for many weeks and wanted nothing to do with him. I allowed her to grieve and supported any decision she made in regards to communicating with me or him. I did not divulge details though my husband said he would face our children and answer any or all questions they may have. I prayed about it. We did not discuss any details with our son, who is 29. He felt it was our business and we needed to work it out. I do worry that he has concerns but he also knows we are in counseling and he supports our efforts. Since our marriage is, in itself, a separate entity apart from our adult kids, we are praying that God will show them what true forgiveness and reconciliation looks like and that "good" will come of this mess. I love your advice, Rick. As usual, it is spot on!