I have never heard a story so eerily similar to mine. It isn’t EXACTLY the same, I’m the one that was forced to move out 1.5 years after D-Day and we are currently in the middle of an ugly divorce, but is similar enough. I became so consumed in my self-righteousness that he caused me to stray and that he needed to fix himself too. I wasn’t doing the work on myself. While I’ve been busy for the past six months since our separation feeling sorry for myself and losing my sense of self, physical and mental, he has started seeing a woman half his age. It was agony to find that out. My kids are so angry with me. Just recently, little by slowly, I have finally started to pick myself up off the floor. It truly is one day at a time.
From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU Nicole for sharing this!! For an entire year I was on the AR site daily trying to force feed recovery to my husband. Since our separation 6 months ago I have not once opened an email, never mind watch a video or read a blog post from AR. I truly believe that my Higher Power, knowing that I NEEDED to read this tonight, leant a strong hand in having me open the email that sent me to your blog post.
By being brave enough to share your story you have helped me. Helped me want to begin the process of opening up my blinders. I think and strongly hope that they have opened just enough for me to clearly see what I have been so unwilling to come to terms with. All the pain and misery I have caused. All the collateral damage. I have been so self-righteous, so resistant to truly understand what I have done to everyone I love.
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I have never heard a story so eerily similar to mine. It isn’t EXACTLY the same, I’m the one that was forced to move out 1.5 years after D-Day and we are currently in the middle of an ugly divorce, but is similar enough. I became so consumed in my self-righteousness that he caused me to stray and that he needed to fix himself too. I wasn’t doing the work on myself. While I’ve been busy for the past six months since our separation feeling sorry for myself and losing my sense of self, physical and mental, he has started seeing a woman half his age. It was agony to find that out. My kids are so angry with me. Just recently, little by slowly, I have finally started to pick myself up off the floor. It truly is one day at a time.
From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU Nicole for sharing this!! For an entire year I was on the AR site daily trying to force feed recovery to my husband. Since our separation 6 months ago I have not once opened an email, never mind watch a video or read a blog post from AR. I truly believe that my Higher Power, knowing that I NEEDED to read this tonight, leant a strong hand in having me open the email that sent me to your blog post.
By being brave enough to share your story you have helped me. Helped me want to begin the process of opening up my blinders. I think and strongly hope that they have opened just enough for me to clearly see what I have been so unwilling to come to terms with. All the pain and misery I have caused. All the collateral damage. I have been so self-righteous, so resistant to truly understand what I have done to everyone I love.