it's life altering. you have painted a clear picture of what it's like when deception in someone just runs rampant and there is a refusal to get help or take action or own it. i'm terribly sorry for your pain. we only have so many bloggers, but are always open to more feedback and suggestions on how to make this little blog as effective as possible. it sounds like you were married to someone who continues in their deception and blameshifting to empower their affair and their lifestyle. it's incredibly sad, but normal for those who want to continue to do what they want to do and live for themselves. barely seeing my children would kill me and affect my psychologically...but when you're self deceived and unhealthy, there's sometimes no limits to the damage one will inflict to get what they feel they want. i'm truly sorry for your pain jen1. i'm so glad you're here and so glad you've taken the time to post here. i hope the site and blog is able to bring more and more healing to you and your journey.
very well said jen1...