He regrets the affair and feels ashamed. He says this is not the man he wanted to be and then says he can't forgive himself for ruining my life and his affair partner's. So whilst seeking some sort of forgiveness from me, he still wants forgiveness from her. It feels like he still gives her equal status. So this doesn't come across as full remorse to me.
How the unfaithful makes amends
He regrets the affair and feels ashamed. He says this is not the man he wanted to be and then says he can't forgive himself for ruining my life and his affair partner's. So whilst seeking some sort of forgiveness from me, he still wants forgiveness from her. It feels like he still gives her equal status. So this doesn't come across as full remorse to me.