Since D day I have been dealing with stone walling from my wife. its always the same i don't feel safe to say anything i'm always wrong. Now she says its over she cant see how we are going to work through this. No AP contact he cut her off, Other wise i think she would still be in contact. She refers to the EA as her friendship. I have given her 90 day reprieve on questions just so we could work on the relationship to no avail. Now she has decided to move to the spare bedroom after two weeks ago saying she was moving out. If we have any argument even about differences in transparency she shuts down. Now I have no access to any of her phone, email or computer if i ask she will shut down. She has been sharing all the marital strife with many of her friends and dragging me through the dirt. Two of her friends have both been OP and unfaithful. so not great marriage advice i tried to point out. Again, now I am trying to control who her friends are and who she can talk to. How can i get her to realize I am not out to get her and just move towards connection? With out talking how do you build intimacy?
how does the stone walling stop
Since D day I have been dealing with stone walling from my wife. its always the same i don't feel safe to say anything i'm always wrong. Now she says its over she cant see how we are going to work through this. No AP contact he cut her off, Other wise i think she would still be in contact. She refers to the EA as her friendship. I have given her 90 day reprieve on questions just so we could work on the relationship to no avail. Now she has decided to move to the spare bedroom after two weeks ago saying she was moving out. If we have any argument even about differences in transparency she shuts down. Now I have no access to any of her phone, email or computer if i ask she will shut down. She has been sharing all the marital strife with many of her friends and dragging me through the dirt. Two of her friends have both been OP and unfaithful. so not great marriage advice i tried to point out. Again, now I am trying to control who her friends are and who she can talk to. How can i get her to realize I am not out to get her and just move towards connection? With out talking how do you build intimacy?