Thank you both for sharing the details of your journey. It's pretty incredible. Your story is very similar to ours, so I find it encouraging. My wife and I actually watched this together and some things Melinda said resonated with her. However, my wife is reluctant to seek help. Most of the help we've gotten has been through me taking the initiative, and I think she needs to take as much ownership in restoring the marriage as I have. So I'm definitely losing hope for us, despite the resultant progress.
Michael, wow, I don't know what to say. I'm not exactly in your old shoes, but it's close enough and I don't know if I can do what you did. I certainly commend you for sticking through all of that and being as longsuffering and patient as you were. My wife's affair essentially ended on D-Day 7 months ago, and though we've made progress, her ambivalence and lack of desire for me makes me doubt we'll ever get back on track. I want to give up and throw in the towel. When confronted with the questions of "where are we going?", "what do you want?", or "are you on board with fixing us?", my wife just replies with, "I don't know". I'm in perpetual turmoil and want it to stop one way or another. We have 2 small children as well, so the decision to leave isn't an easy one, but living in limbo is killing me. I'm consulting with a lawyer next week, but I want to give my wife every opportunity to choose reconciliation before I file and/or things are finalized.
Melinda, when you changed your mind at the last minute, was that the same moment you decided to be all in, or did being all in come later? What are some signs to look for that my wife's heart is softening? What was the single thing you could say helped you the most in coming to your decision to choose Michael and the marriage?
Again, thank you both for sharing. Your story is truly inspiring and I wish you both all the love and happiness life has to offer.
Thanks for this Powerful Story and Questions for Melinda
Thank you both for sharing the details of your journey. It's pretty incredible. Your story is very similar to ours, so I find it encouraging. My wife and I actually watched this together and some things Melinda said resonated with her. However, my wife is reluctant to seek help. Most of the help we've gotten has been through me taking the initiative, and I think she needs to take as much ownership in restoring the marriage as I have. So I'm definitely losing hope for us, despite the resultant progress.
Michael, wow, I don't know what to say. I'm not exactly in your old shoes, but it's close enough and I don't know if I can do what you did. I certainly commend you for sticking through all of that and being as longsuffering and patient as you were. My wife's affair essentially ended on D-Day 7 months ago, and though we've made progress, her ambivalence and lack of desire for me makes me doubt we'll ever get back on track. I want to give up and throw in the towel. When confronted with the questions of "where are we going?", "what do you want?", or "are you on board with fixing us?", my wife just replies with, "I don't know". I'm in perpetual turmoil and want it to stop one way or another. We have 2 small children as well, so the decision to leave isn't an easy one, but living in limbo is killing me. I'm consulting with a lawyer next week, but I want to give my wife every opportunity to choose reconciliation before I file and/or things are finalized.
Melinda, when you changed your mind at the last minute, was that the same moment you decided to be all in, or did being all in come later? What are some signs to look for that my wife's heart is softening? What was the single thing you could say helped you the most in coming to your decision to choose Michael and the marriage?
Again, thank you both for sharing. Your story is truly inspiring and I wish you both all the love and happiness life has to offer.