For me, many times I asked the same question for a couple of reasons. I might word it differently to see if the response I received from my husband had any missing details or any discrepancies from one disclosure to another. And sometimes there were additional details he had left out that help me understand. Afterall, in order to feel safe and that I'm not being deceived, I needed to judge the validity of his words. My husband has always been willing to give me the answers I need since D day, as he feels it's the least he can do to repair our relationship. Sometimes those conversations are uncomfortable, but as he said, we both learn from them. I do, however, make a point of asking myself if what I want to know will help me in the long run.
I couldn't agree more
For me, many times I asked the same question for a couple of reasons. I might word it differently to see if the response I received from my husband had any missing details or any discrepancies from one disclosure to another. And sometimes there were additional details he had left out that help me understand. Afterall, in order to feel safe and that I'm not being deceived, I needed to judge the validity of his words. My husband has always been willing to give me the answers I need since D day, as he feels it's the least he can do to repair our relationship. Sometimes those conversations are uncomfortable, but as he said, we both learn from them. I do, however, make a point of asking myself if what I want to know will help me in the long run.