Hi HanaSteve

That sounds like a difficult situation. The reality is the betrayed spouse will never have *all* of the information as they weren't a party to the infidelity. That is frustrating even without the time lapse that you have in your situation.

Assuming she already has the basic information about what happened, all you can do is continue to be 100% truthful and fully committed to telling her as much as you can about whatever she wants to know. (People vary in the level of detail they want to know beyond the basic information)

We also had a big time lapse in our situation, and there were things he just couldn't remember. I found it very frustrating