hi kmc. the fact that it appears you have had multiple d days and you were lied to at least once or twice, makes it harder. that's just the truth. people heal in months when there is one d day and it's a rather clean type of disclosure process. when someone swears there isn't more, then there is, it really does a number on the betrayed spouse. it can take years to heal for sure when there is that level of deception. what sort of work are you doing on the website? what work have you done for your own personal trauma care, as, often times if you feel traumatized, ptsd ish....it will take longer to heal for sure. i don't believe in the 'it's never going to work' card unless the unf will not do the work and will not live and be honest. if they will, there is great hope. does this make sense?
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hi kmc. the fact that it appears you have had multiple d days and you were lied to at least once or twice, makes it harder. that's just the truth. people heal in months when there is one d day and it's a rather clean type of disclosure process. when someone swears there isn't more, then there is, it really does a number on the betrayed spouse. it can take years to heal for sure when there is that level of deception. what sort of work are you doing on the website? what work have you done for your own personal trauma care, as, often times if you feel traumatized, ptsd ish....it will take longer to heal for sure. i don't believe in the 'it's never going to work' card unless the unf will not do the work and will not live and be honest. if they will, there is great hope. does this make sense?