Great and helpful video, Samuel. I have watched most all of your videos for nearly 3 1/2 years, as my D-day was end of Dec. 2014. I am the betrayed. My husband is a sex addict, who cheated in our marriage for 28+ years. My question is, how does one “sit with the pain” and process through it? I have heard many people say this, and have read books/articles that say this - however, I don’t know how to do this or what a person does to “sit in the pain.” Do we just sit and think about how horrific it is and how God awful much it hurts? Because the more I think about the pain, the more it hurts, my anger and fear return, the horrible images and triggers come back, etc., etc., and I imagine you get the picture.
We have done EMS twice, I have done Harboring Hope, husband started Hope for Healing but did not finish and we have had countless hours of counseling in Austin. I am still hurting and devastated from the magnitude of what he did.
If possible, can you give me guidance, suggestions how I can “sit in the pain” so it will help me?
Thank you again so much for all you do for couples struggling and healing from infidelity.
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Great and helpful video, Samuel. I have watched most all of your videos for nearly 3 1/2 years, as my D-day was end of Dec. 2014. I am the betrayed. My husband is a sex addict, who cheated in our marriage for 28+ years. My question is, how does one “sit with the pain” and process through it? I have heard many people say this, and have read books/articles that say this - however, I don’t know how to do this or what a person does to “sit in the pain.” Do we just sit and think about how horrific it is and how God awful much it hurts? Because the more I think about the pain, the more it hurts, my anger and fear return, the horrible images and triggers come back, etc., etc., and I imagine you get the picture.
We have done EMS twice, I have done Harboring Hope, husband started Hope for Healing but did not finish and we have had countless hours of counseling in Austin. I am still hurting and devastated from the magnitude of what he did.
If possible, can you give me guidance, suggestions how I can “sit in the pain” so it will help me?
Thank you again so much for all you do for couples struggling and healing from infidelity.