Q&A Can Minimizing Childhood Trauma Affect the Ability to Take Responsibility and Show Empathy during Recovery? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: Last year my husband's 8 year affair ended when he left his job. He and his affair partner worked together when he traveled to her area or they were together on out of town trips, and they'd have casual sex 3 or 4 times a year. In his mind they were work friends and he thinks the sex was pleasurable stress relief from his high-stress job. My ongoing frustration is how little he can remember, including when he used escorts, when he got interested in his affair partner, why he bought her jewelry, and especially his belittling treatment of me during those years. Processing has been up and down because he doesn't remember how cruel he could be at the same time he was cheating on me. He believes what I tell him and says he's sorry, but it feels empty when he doesn't remember what he did---and I really think that he doesn't remember. In the last 10 years my husband was in an environment where heavy drinking was always part of the socializing. He functioned fine at his job but he drank every day. Could heavy drinking have affected his memory, especially if the details didn't matter to him at the time? Also, as a child he was routinely beaten by his mother. He minimizes the abuse, but could learning to minimize bad things be part of why he doesn't remember his bad actions?Sections: Leslie and John's callsRL_Category: Q&A Recovery LibraryThe Role of EmpathyTrauma of InfidelityRL_Media Type: Video