I just started Harboring Hope and I am happy to be here. During our introduction with our group I heard the phrase pretending to be normal a few times from others. That has become so true in my situation with my unfaithful wife. While she is continuing her 3 year affair, when we are together she acts like there is nothing wrong. I tend to go along with this because I want our visits to be as loving and comfortable as possible. I believe this gives me false hope when she tells me she loves me and kisses me goodbye to go back to her apartment where she recently moved. How do I start to change things so she knows I can't heal with what I call false hope?