I am four and a half months from initial discovery of my husband’s emotional and physical affair with someone ten years younger than us. The affair continues; this entire time post discovery has been a constant circus of lies and deceit. I actually now believe that my charming husband is beyond just manipulative, I’m questioning a sociopath or narcissist. Even simple things unrelated to this, he lies about. We are in the process of a separation, the home is sold, and I am moving with our two young children to a town where my family is available to help. I don’t know how many times we’ve been through the cycle of his apparent commitment towards reconciliation, and just a bit of digging on my part, and I find the lies and continual contact with his affair partner. It is scary that he has never disclosed anything to me; I have found it all out on my own. My family is now keeping close eyes on me so I don’t get reeled into the next round of “I’m doing everything to be safe” and all of the other buzz words he is learning as we are both participating currently in the designated courses. Please remind me, it is well beyond time to move forward and stop contact with him unless needed for child purposes. I am blown away by this person I have known for 18 years, since high school. I now find myself anxious in his company, awaiting the next hurtful discovery.