My wife had a one night stand a while back. Once I was able to uncover enough information to prove it, she admitted it. We have done EMSO and I am in HH. In the beginning, she took full responsibility, but since the end of EMSO she has shifted into neutral and will not pursue any further healing processes. I try to get her to listen to some of yours and Samuel's blogs to help her understand where I am but when I do, she gets defensive. When I bring that to her attention, she tells me I'm making all up and that I am not correct in my perceptions. Basically, she's trying to gaslight me. This makes me feel very unsafe. How can I communicate my concerns to her without creating conflict?