My husband’s affair ended almost a year ago. We have been in marriage counseling for 4 months now. I am happy that we are learning a lot in counseling and it is helping us to see a lot of problems that we had before his affair. But, I have a huge problem with my husband. I have so much anxiety around him because he is always grabbing or slapping my butt. He says he can’t help it and he doesn't even realize when he does it sometimes. It’s so weird to me that it is such a habit for him. He says it’s one of the ways he shows love. I still have not been able to have sex with him and he has been understanding about that. But, I have told him repeatedly that it makes me feel scared and unsafe and threatened when he grabs my butt and yet he still does it. Our counselor gave us some non-sexual touching exercises to do and I am fine with those (like foot rubs and hand rubs). I do not know what else to say to my husband to make him understand that he cannot cross certain boundaries with me yet. Am I normal to feel this way? Is there something wrong with me? Do you know why I am so opposed to him grabbing my butt? Is there anything else I can say to him to make him stop this behavior?