My wife had multiple affairs and one night stands before we met, which were not disclosed to me before we married. She cheated on me with her boss in the early years of our marriage and has had 3-4 emotional affairs throughout our marriage. She was very good at keeping all of this a secret from me. All of this has led me to the point that I'm not sure she's capable of a healthy marriage relationship, totally committed to me. I feel as if there is always that possibility for that "one guy" to show up that she would fall for. How can I ever reach that point of feeling safe?