My husband and I have been married for 8 years. I discovered my husband's affair 6 months ago. Since then, he has bounced from committing to end the affair then gone back in communication with the AP and everywhere in between. He is hesitant to commit to our marriage that he now says was horrible for him (much to my surprise since I was under the impression that we had an amazing marriage!). The longer I feel like we are in the limbo stage, the less desire I have to fight for and stay in my marriage. For me, it seems that the longer this gets dragged on the more my feelings towards him dwindle and worsen. I don't have much desire to be his friend or wife. I don't enjoy conversing with him these days and feel like I'm forcing a connection. I miss him terribly though; I miss the man and marriage I used to have. I'd give anything to get those feelings back but I'm so scared they are gone for good. I don't see how we can make this marriage succeed and thrive if I don't have many positive feelings towards this man. My questions for you are: 1) is a lack of positive regard towards our betrayer normal? 2) can the positive feelings I once had (love, respect, admiration, attractiveness, friendship, etc) for my husband truly return? 3) If so, how? Thank you for your valued insight.