Video Restricted to Recovery Library members. Question Hello Leslie and John,  During discovery of his affair in 2004, my husband admitted he had a one night stand 14 years earlier while working out of town. The affair partner was a hotel employee where he was staying. She was of a different race than we are. He contracted gonorrhea at the same time but was able to get it treated without me knowing about it. We went through years of therapy and were able to put our long term marriage b…