Q&A How Do I Get Over the Fact That My Wife Gave Her Affair Partner More Intense and Passionate Sex Than She Has Ever Given Me?

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Wed, 06/16/2021 - 13:26

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I have the terrible misfortune of having an audio recording of my wife and her affair partner having sex. I got it when I was trying to see if she was still calling him when I was away from the house. At the time I still believed her that the affair was purely emotional. In this recording, my wife sounds exactly like a porn star, something that has never happened with me in nearly 13 years of marriage. It sounds like she is having the best sex she has ever had. I have been horribly traumatized by this, and wish I had never heard it. My wife is the only woman I have ever had sex with, and now I am struggling with deep feelings of inadequacy. The mind-movies are intense and showing up in nightmares. Is there any way I can ever FULLY recover from this?

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I am in the same situation. How do we get over the fact that our UW acted like that for another man. I feel like she needs to show me the same passion, or she needs to leave. I can't live with the fact that she tested another man so much better than she has ever treated me.

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I am in the same situation. How do we get over the fact that our UW acted like that for another man. I feel like she needs to show me the same passion, or she needs to leave. I can't live with the fact that she tested another man so much better than she has ever treated me.

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