I am writing in response to a previous question that you answered last month. {https://www.affairrecovery.com/groups/harboring-hope/qa-hh-how-can-i-break-down-my-walls-and-be-intimate-again} The question was "How can I break down my walls and be intimate again?” I said that I have been unable have sex with my husband (or even kiss) because I feel repulsed by him. His deeply emotional and sexual affair ended 8 months ago, and you said once the safety and trust comes back, I will probably want to have sex again. Is there anything else I should be doing to help myself be able to be sexual with him? You said it sounds like I have an aversion disorder, so does this mean I should be getting help from a sex therapist? Also, I told you that the only touch from him that I can tolerate is when we hold hands and you wondered if I actually enjoyed holding hands. The answer is no, I don't. I pretty much feel anxiety every time he is near me. You said that the first step is I should try to figure out a way to enjoy holding his hand. How do I go about doing that? I don't know how to make myself enjoy being around him. Thanks so much for your time and hard work.