My spouse is addicted to porn and had two emotional affairs. I want to move forward but am having trouble because I know I have no control over what he does. He's working very hard on himself and his addiction, but I'm terrified he'll hurt me again with relapse or another affair. I just don't want to go through the pain again. I feel like the only way I can be sure he won't hurt me again is to divorce, but I don't want that either. How do I conquer this fear?