Is has been 1 1/2 yrs since disclosure of my husband's two affairs. The first affair was 21 yrs ago, and lasted approx 1yr. The second affair ended March 2015, and lasted 6 yrs. Both affairs were with female employees. Both women were "hired" by my husband under the guise of him needing addition help. We both worked together in his medical practice, and typically I was in charge of personnel and the hiring process. The first affair partner was hired when I was 6 months pregnant, and the affair was in place before she joined the practice. The second affair partner was hired, and the affair started quickly thereafter. My question, or rather concern deals with my healing, or getting past this issue. Why did my husband bring them both into my world? Why didn't he just have his affairs on the sly? I just see this act of bringing them TO me, as evil. How he gave them so much power over me. To carry on affairs under my nose was so cruel!! Would you be able to explain his thought process? I've asked him this question, but he does not have any answers to give.