Our initial D-day was almost 2 years ago. Throughout the first 1 1/2 years of recovery, I learned my husband is a sex addict having engaged in multiple affairs, prostitutes, porn and masturbation during our 29 year marriage. We are both diligently working on recovery. IF or WHEN should we tell our adult children? We are empty nesters and our kids are now 25, 23, 21. They do come home for short periods of time during the summer, for family vacations, etc. We have not told them what has gone on. But, early in recovery my husband apologized to them for not being a godly example all the time and for not treating me as he should. 5 years ago our oldest daughter suspected my husband was having an affair and told me. I stood up for my husband and said he wouldn't do that (not knowing he was and with whom my daughter suspected). It was never mentioned again. I thought it would crush my husband to know our daughter thought that. So, what do we do? Do we tell our kids, who will be crushed and may think their whole lives were a lie and struggle with judging and forgiving their dad? If we do tell our children, what is the best way? How much do we tell? And will they need counseling or is there some sort of course/program they could go through?