My husband has had an affair with a coworker. They were sexually involved 4 times for a few days over a year. They mainly met to talk. He told her from the start that he loves his wife and will not leave her. They only saw each other at her place for short times during working hours, never in the evening, never on weekends. He gave her nothing, took her nowhere, and promised her nothing. He had the opportunity to take her on business trips, spend time with her while I took the kids on vacations but he never did! Sex was average, and when sex was over he just wanted to get out of there. Why have such a lame affair? Was it just for the admiration and validation?