Video Restricted to Recovery Library members. Question Many spouses seem to "get it" and are helping their hurt spouse heal. My spouse is not taking responsibility and not helping me feel safe. Saying there are reasons he has cheated and it's time for me to not be stuck and just move forward. I have had a new DDay every year for the four years. How do I know if he is really getting healthy? How do I create the space for my recovery when it only angers him? How do I know it's ok to move fo…