It has been almost 4 weeks since our EMS weekend and we are now in week 3 of the beyond EMS exercises. During the EMS weekend, my husband (the unfaithful) wrote a beautiful empathy letter. This week our assignment was to write another one and it is totally different. In other words, it is completely devoid of empathy. His letter (supposedly from me to him) has paragraph after paragraph of "I should have known....", "l should have questioned....", "I should have etc, etc, etc". In other words the letter is merely stating what I should have been doing to keep him from acting out, rather than dealing with my feelings and consequences of his infidelity. Are we in false recovery?