Can a marriage survive and truly move forward if the unfaithful spouse never comes out of the fog or continues to view his 2 year betrayal as this great special love affair? It seems that he is choosing me and to work on our marriage. How do I every really feel safe and get past this? To know he continues to view her and their relationship thru this distorted lens that has nothing to do with real day to day life. He has been working hard at recovery and is getting ready to start Hope for Healing. I know that it takes time and that you can’t just flip a switch but I can’t help but wonder what if it never happens. Can I live with and accept that he may never see it differently? If I had that piece we would be so much further along in this journey.