In the EMS Online workbook it notes that an affair early in marriage where the wife has been unfaithful has a lower recovery rate. Can you explain what “early in marriage” is and the reason why the recovery rate is lower? My wife, who has been unfaithful after 2.5 years of marriage, is doing everything possible to get me to stay with her. We are doing this course, personal counseling, couples counseling, research, and continuing to fight through the emotions day by day and she has refused to leave. A week after discovery in January we found out we were pregnant. Before finding out we were pregnant my wife was already determined to make things work between us. I can't make a decision about staying or leaving now that we have a child and I know my flip flopping behavior is wearing on my wife. Do you have any recommendations for what we should do in our situation? So far we have discovered she wanted to feel wanted and was lonely in our marriage.