Q&A He Says I'm 50% Responsible for His Affair. Is That a Sign of Denial? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: Hi Rick, We are in EMSO and 3 months out from our final D-day when my husband finally terminated his affair. This is his second affair the first was 20 years ago, but was always denied - even though I knew. In our discussions about relapsing he has focused his comments mostly not on his affair, but on behaviours in our marriage. He considers that it is these behaviours that are responsible for his affair - ie our failure to talk/communicate at an intimate level. I agree wholeheartedly that our lack of intimate communication has caused a real dysfunction in our marriage. However when discussing relapse he told me that I was 50% responsible (that the affair occured because we didn't talk). He also stated that he viewed his AP as a symptom of our failure to communicate. I am feel that these comments indicate that he still not taking responsibility and that denial is still an issue for him. What are your thoughts and what is the best way to address this? Thank you - I so wish I had found your site 20 years ago, maybe we wouldn't be here again today. Sections: Rick's Q & A timeRick's QuestionsRL_Category: Q&A Recovery LibraryRelapse PreventionSafety in RecoveryWhy They Did ItRL_Media Type: Video