My husband betrayed our marriage vows by engaging in an emotional and physical affair with a coworker for over 3 years. He and I have been together for over 40 years and as far as I know, this was his first and only betrayal. I thought we had a trusting and totally faithful relationship and saw so signs of trouble until d-day. He has since let the affair partner know it’s over and tells me he has had no contact at all and wants no contact with her - just wants to get our relationship back on the right track. It’s been almost 4 months since d-day and even though I want to, I find it very difficult to get close physically with him, hold his hand, kiss him etc without seeing him in my mind’s eye doing the same with his affair partner. How can I get these images out of my mind and get back to just being with my husband? I am really struggling with this on a daily basis and don’t know how to deal with it.