I am being judgement day honest with my husband when I tell him that I cannot remember some of the details that he is asking. It would not make the situation any worse at this time so I would really love to recall all the things that would help his healing. Because I lied and trickled the truth during the discovery, he is nearing the end stages and honestly doesn't know if he can get past this. I desperately want to remember and complete this puzzle of ""why" for him; and for me to be quite honest. How can help him feel safe at this point, when I have tried for 3 months to recall to no avail? I'm very concerned and worried for our future.

Rick's suggested resources:

• How Could You? - a 6 part series written by Rick Reynolds that attempts to explain how someone can betray their own sense of morals and values and have an affair.