I am the betrayed spouse. It has been a year since discovery. I am struggling with letting somebody treat me so badly. I am currently in EMS Online, and although very helpful, I feel a lot of the material is for the wayward spouse even though the betrayed spouse has more work to do. I do love my spouse and can almost understand why it happened but I don't understand how to let go of her treating me so badly. Putting me in terrible positions with the lies and deceit and making such a fool of me in front of a whole group of people. I think I need some advice on how to feel good about myself again after letting someone do what she did.