As the betrayed I have been through multiple affairs in the last 25 years. I also just recently found out about the whole sex addiction thing, which I thought was an excuse to cheat that his therapist gave him, so dealing with that new information as well. My 45 year old husband flaunted his 21 year old girlfriend, which is our oldest son's age, along with 3 others, one of which he flew to the states multiple times from Colombia. All while I had no clue. We live in a small town where everyone knows, our kids coaches, teachers, the whole town. I get the she's so stupid for taking him back, he's cheated their entire marriage. Our kids got the "I'm sorry, How are you doing?" I feel like he owes me and the kids. He gets to screw around, humiliate me, the kids, our family and our marriage and he just gets to come back. He says, "you shouldn't care what people think." Yes, in some ways I don't. But I feel like I deserve him to fix this for me and the kids. Especially when this has happened multiple times.