I discovered my wife's affair 15 months ago when the affair partner’s wife told me about it. We have completed EMS Weekend and the 6-week Beyond EMS course. I see my wife doing work, but the trickle-truth that I experienced still has me very suspicious. On D-day, my wife took care of her affair partner’s needs for a few hours (finding him a divorce lawyer) before coming to me to confess. I had asked her a few times in the past about suspected inappropriate relationships at work and I now know she looked me dead in the eyes and lied to me. How do I replace "what I feel" with "what I know", if I don't KNOW what is the truth.