My husband chose to leave our home when I discovered he was having an affair. He kept the affair going for 2 more months after that and then continued to communicate with her for another 2 months after stopping the sexual relationship because they suspected that she was pregnant. Her doctors believe that she had a miscarriage, so when we began EMSO, my husband told her that he would not be in touch with her for the next 13 weeks (all of this was hidden from me). I am fairly confident that my husband would prefer to be at home with us than to be with her because of what he has said, but I am not 100% sure. We have just 2 more weeks left of EMSO and I am curious if I should ask him about this and how I could do it effectively. Also, who is supposed to bring up the topic of ending the separation?