We are 17 months post discovery day of my husband's 4 1/2 year affair. We had been making some great steps in our healing. We did EMS Online and we go to counseling. My husband also does individual counseling and goes to a men's support group. A couple weeks ago I discovered that he has been looking at pictures of his affair partner every day for the past month and lying to me about it. He claims he doesn't want to go back to her, but that he is grieving. I feel like I am back at ground zero.