My husband calls me all kinds of horrible names, often kicks me out of the bedroom when he gets upset and sometimes makes me leave the house late at night in the cold. I don't feel safe. Definitely not safe to share. He calls all the shots about what I can say, when I'm allowed to talk and what topics are allowed. Is this all part of the process and I just need to take it? It crushes my heart and makes me very fearful to try to talk to him about anything but when I try to give him space. He says he can't stand to be around me or even look at me. Then he flips out saying that proves I don't care about him.