Q&A How Should I Respond When He Shares Lies with Me, Especially If I Perceive He Is Sugar-Coating the Truth?

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My partner lied to me about something small and meaningless in the afternoon and admitted it before bed. This triggered a lot of anxiety for me. In the past, I’ve often felt like I’ve received half-truths or things sugar-coated, which makes it hard to trust ‘what I’m being told. He journals every night about whether he’s been truthful that day, and while I want to be a safe place for him to be honest, when these small lies add up, I feel like I’m not getting the full truth. I struggle because I feel the urge to call him out, lecture him, or fix the situation, but I know this isn’t helpful. I need him to take responsibility and be more transparent, but I often feel like it’s my job to help him understand the impact of these lies. How should I respond when he shares lies with me, especially if I perceive he is sugar-coating the truth?

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